Have you been rejected?
Rejection is one of the root causes of unhappiness.
Looking forward that this would help you understand how to reject rejection because everybody deserves to live a happy life.
Today, March 20, is an extra special day as we celebrate the international day of happiness. United Nations General Assembly declared this dayin order to recognize happiness and well being as fundamental human and universal goals.
My daughter’s stories
My daughter Sofia, aged 6 came from school one day and was very upset.
With teary eyes, she asked me “Mommy is it true that mickey mouse clubhouse is for babies? My friends told me it’s baby-ish and i should be watching star wars like them. But i don’t like star wars because it is scary for me.”
My other daughter Maia, aged 3 was crying one night. She cannot sleep because she was bothered by the event that day. She said one classmate told her to stay away from another classmate. She was sobbing and in a trembling voice told me ” but mommy i want to be friends with my classmate but my other classmate won’t let me”.
At the age of 3 and 6, i didn’t thought that peer pressure would have come this early to my kids.
I cannot control their classmates but i can make my kids mindset strong enough to reject rejection and accept themselves no matter what people say about them.
Why do we reject rejection ?
The truth is that the need to to belong and the fear of rejection is a feeling that each of us share – it is not defined by age, gender or nationality.
Each of us wants to be accepted.
Each of us rejects the idea of being rejected.
As Maslows’ hierarchy of needs validate this, acceptance is one of the highest forms of human need.
How to Reject Rejection
Here is how i managed to help my kids reject rejection, looking forward that this may help you too.
1. Accept the FACT that it is OK to be different
First, you must accept the idea, that it is definitely “ok” to be different.
I told my daughter (Sofia) SO WHAT if she likes mickey mouse, after all we are all different. I told her she does not have to want what her classmate wants because we are all unique and have our own preferences.
This gave a smile to her face because she thought that to remain friends, she needs to like the same things.
Key Takeaway: You should never change your preferences just to fit in or else this will cause you unhappiness in the long run. Embrace your uniqueness, after all TRUE friends will accept you no matter what!
- Be kind to unkind people because they need it
Yes, you have to be kind to the unkind people because being unkind to them won’t make you look good or feel good either.
I told my daughter Maia to be understanding and be kind to her unkind classmate.
I told her that maybe that classmate has no brother or sister or other friends that is why she is not willing to share her friends with her.
I told her just continue to be kind to others because someday they will all be friends.
Thankfully, the following day, she came home happily sharing the story that she is now friends with that classmate where she has a problem with.
Key takeaway: Practice kindness at all times. If you encounter people who are unkind, just ignore them. You cannot change people but you can always chose your emotions.
When you chose to ignore them, you will be at peace and stress free. Instead of talking back or reacting negatively, take a deep breathe and say to yourself “I will be kind even if others are not”.
- STOP believing what people say about you
Yes, stop believing in what people say about you!
In the end, the only thing that matters is your opinion of yourself and God’s opinion about you.
God’s opinion about you will always be good!
Because you are created in God’s image and likeness, you should also have good opinion about yourself.
Take note that it takes 16 positive things to remove 1 negative thought so you have to keep those positive energies highly charged so you can protect yourself from negative comments about you.
For my kids, I always tell them how much they are worth because I want them to develop strong belief in themselves.
I always tell them the following words to empower them:
- I believe in you
- I love you no matter what
- I know you can do anything
- I am proud of you
- You are a genius
- You are smart
- You are beautiful
- You are special
- You are an angel
- You are blessed
- You are talented
- You are gifted
- You are smart
Key takeaway: Stop believing others and use positive words of affirmation to uplift yourself, always say to yourself:
- I am a star
- I am blessed and guided by God at all times
- I am the best me there is
- I am beautiful
- I can do anything because God will give e strength
Remember that your life is a gift. To unwrap the present and enjoy every moment, reject rejection!
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